Saturday, July 5, 2008

It's not about "sexual temptation"

Last week, the First Baptist Church of Paducah, Kentucky, sent out a letter to its members, telling them about what the church is doing to prevent “sexual impropriety.” The stated goal was “to reassure church members that things like supervised counseling, internet monitoring software, and large windows will create a safer atmosphere.”

I figure the first question you’re probably asking is this: Why would Christa take an interest in FBC-Paducah?

Two reasons:
  1. Dr. Stephen Wilson, chairman of the bylaws workgroup of the SBC Executive Committee, teaches just a few miles down-the-road at MidContinuent University in Mayfield, Kentucky. His group was the subcommittee that was supposed to study the creation of a database of Southern Baptist clergy-predators… and did virtually nothing other than to put out a glossy brochure.

    I can’t help but wonder whether First Baptist of Paducah might be Wilson’s own home church. And that leads me to wonder whether this is an illustration of what he thinks will work to protect kids against clergy predators in Southern Baptist churches.

  2. FBC-Paducah went to the trouble of getting media attention for its letter. According to the news report, “the Kentucky Baptist Convention and the Southern Baptist Convention Executive Committee have already shown interest in possibly using this letter as a model for other churches across the state and maybe even across the country.”

    Since Kentucky will play host to next year’s Southern Baptist Convention annual meeting in Louisville, I predict that we will indeed see FBC-Paducah’s model put forth as exemplary of what Southern Baptist churches should do.

So, is FBC-Paducah's model a good one?

No.

What FBC-Paducah is doing is not nearly enough. Not even close.

Supervised counseling, internet monitoring, and large windows are all good things. But they constitute so little that no one should be reassured by them.

Let’s not forget that the SBC executive committee just blew an opportunity to take real, meaningful action. It refused to establish any system for objectively assessing the credibility of clergy abuse reports and refused to establish any denominational database for keeping track of credibly accused clergy predators. It’s sad to think that they would now try to reassure people with these feeble measures when they refused the chance for far more effective measures.

I know many of you wrote to Dr. Wilson and to other members of the SBC Executive Committee. Some of you told them about your abuse at the hands of Southern Baptist clergy. Yet, I don’t think a single one of you got any help at all in exposing your perpetrator, getting him out of the pulpit, or protecting others.

Why should anyone imagine that Southern Baptist leaders will be able to prevent clergy child molesters they don’t yet know about when they do nothing at all about clergy child molesters who are specifically reported to them?

No parent in a Southern Baptist pew should sit easy until this denomination provides a safe place where victims themselves may report abuse and where their reports will be responsibly assessed.

This is what does not exist. This is what is essential. This is what other major faith groups are doing. This is what Southern Baptists are tragically failing to do.

Instead, Southern Baptist leaders tell victims to report their abuse to the church of the accused perpetrator. This is like telling a person savaged by a wolf that he must go to the wolf’s own den to seek help.

Most clergy abuse survivors will not go to the wolf’s den, and understandably so. For those who try, they are almost always re-wounded as those who love and trust their pastor circle the wagons and stone the messenger who brings such unwelcome news.

This is the reality of human behavior in churches where ministers are accused of sexual abuse. Southern Baptist leaders must address this reality if kids in Southern Baptist churches are to be made safer.

People in the pews will find out about clergy child molesters only when victims report them. Victims will do that only when they are psychologically able and only when they feel safe in doing so.

If Southern Baptists hope to find out about clergy child molesters, denominational leaders must provide a safe place where victims may report abuse and where their reports will be responsibly assessed. Until that happens, steps like those taken at FBC-Paducah will amount to little more than window-dressing.

The letter of FBC-Paducah is a poor model for another reason. In talking about “the danger of sexual temptation,” it reflects a horribly minimizing view of clergy sex abuse. But it’s a view we’ve seen too often among Southern Baptist leaders.

In treating it as a matter of “sexual temptation,” they effectively take the perspective of the perpetrator and they objectify the victims as the source of the temptation.

The clergy-predators who commit these deeds do not simply fall into “temptation.” They commit their deeds intentionally, deliberately and methodically. They often groom their victims for months in advance, slowly moving in on their prey.

The victims are neither tempters nor temptresses. They are human beings, often children, who were victimized by predators through no fault of their own.

It's not about "sexual temptation." It's about sexual savagery, child molestation and rape.

These are awful words but not even a fraction so awful as the actual deeds. Southern Baptist leaders need to stop minimizing this conduct as “sexual temptation” and see it for the full awfulness of what it actually is.

When Southern Baptist leaders begin to view this horror from the perspective of the victims, rather than the perspective of their predatory colleagues, then they may finally begin to see the need for effective action.

Until then, people in the pews should not feel reassured of any safety.

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Addendum: According to Executive Committee background material, Stephen Wilson's home church is NOT FBC-Paducah.

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

As I have said so many times before, no SBC leader will see nor understand the seriousness of this problem until it strikes close to home. It is not until the wounded become family that the others see that yes, there is something that not only needs to be done, but , must be done.
Please, I am begging that no one give up the fight , because the truth will win in the end and the end comes when you are smitten with the truth!
John

Anonymous said...

I read your article -- Thank you for writing it

I talked to Stephen Wilson and at first I thought he cared -- but learned differently

I did not like what they did or how they did it

I think it was their plan all along -- the words were the same as Boto had written before

They had no intentions of doing a database -- their minds were closed from the start

I wanted to let you know how I felt

I also have e-mails from Stephen Wilson where he tries to justify -- but I called him on it

You gave me the strength and knowledge to do so

Please do not give up – everyone that can – should try to let the truth be known

Someday things will change, but it is going to take a lot of people speaking up
And people who care and desire to protect these young lives

You have done such good, even if you do not know it and people forget to say thank you

Thanks

Debbie Vasquez

Anonymous said...

Got to wondering if this deacon at FBC Jacksonville was a deacon when Jerry Vines was there? This is just nauseating...

Christa Brown said...

Yes, the admitted child molester Stephen Lee Edmonds was a deacon at FBC-Jacksonville when former Southern Baptist president Jerry Vines was pastor there. Edmonds got a light sentence originally, and now he's asking to have the rest of his probation waived. You can read more on this (with video) here and more about Jerry Vines' reaction to Edmonds' arrest here.

Anonymous said...

EWWWW! I read the link to Vines' reaction to the abuse. He is very concerned about the pedophile deacon!

This is so typical. Then we see words like 'Sexual Temptation' in the letter on this post. Words that are used to blame the victim.

Hello! they are predators. They are not tempted sexually because a victim crosses their path. They go looking for them YOU IDIOTS.

This all goes back to the lack of respect for women and children within the SBC. MEN RULE. They are in authority. Women are inferior and stupid and should keep silent.

yes, they planned this. They are masters at twisting scripture for their own personal gain. Why not masters at PR?

They will get their reward but it will be here on earth.

Anonymous said...

Yea, I read it already. Generally speaking I am finding that there are a lot of churches where they don't take the qualifications for deacons strict enough that is found in I Timothy though some are quick to point the verses on women in that same letter. This guy lied to Vines, he is not the victim. Vines should be appalled at the deceit and have more concern for the victims.

Lin said...

From the link:

"One misstep in the area of sexuality can completely cut off the voice that we have to folks," said Brady"

Yeah and it certainly does not help tithes any either.

Funny how he is worried about their 'voice' but not their salvation or the victims.

It's like: Don't do it because of our reputation. Not because it is heinous sin or anything.

This was akin the reaction of the pastor at Prestonwood. It is all about image....so the money will keep rolling in.

Notice how those abused are given passing mention all the time?

Anonymous said...

As I mentioned before, a woman who has been sexually abused affects her future husband as well. If advocation to leave and cleave applies do I stand fraternally on this with them or bear with my wife's struggles. There are a lot of theological questions on "Corpus Christi" that are being ignored for the sake of submission. Isn't this something Luther requested the leadership in his day to look into?